In our modern world, it has become the norm to hurry from one thing to the next, to cram for a project deadline at work or an exam at school, to finally finish and then let loose with binge watching, binge drinking, or binge eating, to feeling a little bit empty inside after the fact. But what if we challenge the idea that this is how life has to be? What if we could take our health and our happiness into our own hands, and create the life we want? I’m not saying we need to stop going out or having fun, or that we need to stop being productive in our daily lives. I’m saying there’s a way to incorporate these things in a way that actually brings us daily joy and excitement, that makes us feel good in our bodies and minds.
I know what it’s like to be terrified of my future, to feel uncomfortable in my body, to live out of integrity with the way I know I want to live. I know what it’s like to struggle with autoimmune issues and frequently get sick, to be out of commission for days at a time. I know what it’s like to feel groggy and tired all day, to rely on coffee to wake up and alcohol to have fun. I know what it’s like to feel wiped out for more than one day after going out and partying. I know what it’s like to have a dysfunctional relationship with food and with my body. I know what it’s like to feel a loss of control when eating, and a sense of regret and self-contempt after the fact. I know what it’s like to be constantly dieting and obsessing about my weight. I know what it’s like to feel a general and constant sense of sadness as well as irritability, annoyed with myself and those around me for no real reason, feeling like time is passing me by without knowing what I want to do or be.
But I now know what it’s like to be alert and focused, to have mental clarity and to honor my body’s needs without punishing myself for eating something “wrong” or not working out as hard as I “should.” I now know what it’s like to be free of colds, infections, and allergies. I now know what it’s like to have a handle on my autoimmune issues, and be able to control whether or not I have a flare-up (without medication!). I now know what it’s like to wake up in the morning excited for the day, to feel loving toward my body and soul. I now know what it’s like to have positive relationships, to feel blessed instead of annoyed. I now know what it’s like to go out with friends and have more fun than I’ve ever had without binge drinking and feeling hungover for days later. I now know what it’s like to have found my passion in life, and to have turned that passion into a purpose and a career.
Of course, I am certainly not living the perfect life, and there are times when I slide back into old thought and behavioral patterns. I eat too much, I stay up too late, I skip my mindfulness practice, I get stressed with the amount of work I have to do. And some days I still feel like crap in my body and out of integrity with how I want to live. But all of these things happen much less frequently than they ever did in the past. While most of these things used to be almost daily occurrences, now they happen much further apart, and it’s thanks to the habits I’ve learned and implemented in my life.
The habits ground me while at the same time propelling me forward into the next version of myself. I no longer have to make a choice about whether I will perform these habits each day: I just do them without thinking about it. Instead of experiencing decision fatigue from deciding whether or not I’ll do them, I can spend that mental energy on other things. That includes following my passion in order to guide others to arrive at another level of health and happiness by implementing these same habits in their lives.
But these habits can always be refined, can always be improved in order to venture deeper into our growth path and depth of self. I continuously iterate on these habits, and cement them deeper into my neural pathways, into my physiology. As I guide a group of people on a journey into improved wellness and greater self-love, I will not only be the leader, but will also learn and grow with everyone along the way.
We can always grow more, do more, be more. That is not to say that we aren’t living our best lives right now, and it’s not to say that we shouldn’t live in the present moment. But our future selves will not be the same people we are right now: we can’t stay static and expect to continue to be happy. As we grow and age, our natural urge is to improve and deepen our sense of self while continuously improving, little by little. We can do this simply by living our most aware, present, and fulfilled life right now, and by learning from our mistakes and victories along the way. I don’t know who the future Hadlee will be, but I’m excited to do the work to make her the best version of herself, and to impact the most people at the most profound level she possibly can.
So how do you want to feel, be, and serve in the future? How will you serve your future self now? Is there anything in this post that resonates with you and makes you want to change in your life? Make sure to comment to share your struggles and accomplishments in growth and self-evolution: i really do want to hear what you have to say. Or if you really want to dive deep into your health goals and priorities, sign up for a free strategy session with me at https://happyhealthyhadlee.com/contact/ ,and I will guide you into clarifying what you want from your health, your body, and your life
Here’s to the future you and all you can become!